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My INTJ perspective of relationship lessons learned, what I believe. I’ve had my share of heartbreak, but that is the price we pay to love. And I’ll continue to pay because there is nothing greater on earth than love. It can feel like we have been torn apart when it ends, but completely empowers us when we are in its presence.
I believe this is apart of our job on earth, is to learn how to love. Like, with most things in life we learn the most from failures. Failing at love has taught me more about myself than years in a loving relationship.
We are all imperfect in love. Striving to give love unconditionally and freely is the goal, but it is incredibly hard to do. It’s easy for us to develop the mindset, I will love you if you (fill in the blank) or you should do this (fill in the blank) and I will love you more. We are probably all guilty of this.
The more immature we are, the more we want to hate someone for hurting us. I believe this is a part of the lesson, to learn to love and accept people as they are even when we are not loved respectfully back.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying to not have standards or to stay in crappy relationships. It is possible to part ways with love in your heart and wish that person the best. It may take a lot of damn work, because they may have not behaved in a way that is deserving of this, but it's not about them it’s about you.
You deserve better than having a dark cloud of anger plaguing your heart. Who do you want to be? And, who knows your badass classiness may just rub off on them. Though you are done, perhaps they will become more gracious in life because of the example you set.
Getting to know yourself isn’t always pretty, but its necessary. I believe in growth, to grow in our ability to love, to grow and be more courageous, to grow in gratitude....
I don’t know if anything makes us grow more than pain and failure. To grow, we must take an honest look at ourselves, and sometimes it takes falling apart for us to do that.
When a relationship ends we so badly want to find all the faults in the other person. And you will find them, they are there, just like they are in you. Their faults may help you discover what you value in your next relationship, but don’t spend too much time fault finding.
It’s over, objectively focus on you now and try to leave guilt at the door. What did you learn? Where could have you done better? What are you great at? What do you want out of your next relationship? What are your values? As we get older I noticed my answers to these questions evolved. Take your lessons learned and build something greater than before.
Enough of my tangent…Here are my two cents on what I believe to be true in love and loss.
31 Relationship Lessons Learned in Love and Loss
My Relationship Truths – Do you agree?
- Learning to love is a part of life’s purpose.
- Love conquers all.
- Lead by example.
- You can’t make someone happy.
- To make a relationship work it takes two.
- The ugliness of the storm doesn’t matter. It’s how you face it together.
- A text doesn’t = a phone call.
- There are few true excuses, it mostly about priorities.
- You will get hurt, use that pain to better yourself and truly appreciate your next chance at love.
- Don’t count on people changing, love them as they are or move on.
- Don’t promise someone a committed relationship, if you aren’t over your ex.
- Your ex is truly your ex when you no longer care that they have moved on.
- Stop (especially when you are angry) and ask yourself if this is the last time on earth you get to speak to this person, is this really what you want to say? It cuts through the bs, pride, and arrogance to reveal what’s truly in your heart.
- Don’t waste time. Time is precious to us all. If someone gives you their time value it.
- Don’t withhold love as a punishment.
- You are loved. Never forget.
- If someone gives you their heart, make sure you are up to the task of safeguarding it. They just trusted you with the most beautiful thing about them.
- Always remember who will stand by you.
- A person’s heart is their most cherished gift. Honor it.
- Distance doesn’t kill relationships. Silence does. (borrowed)
- Relationships are destroyed easier than they are built. To build takes effort, to destroy can be done by neglect and without effort.
- Don’t be too arrogant to admit when you are wrong. Apologize when you are wrong. If you hurt someone look up how to apologize correctly.
- Attention both positive and negative is still attention, make sure the person you are giving it to is worth it.
- Time doesn’t heal all wounds, it helps. But a commitment to grow as a person brings about healing.
- Vengeance is choosing to live in a broken past, where hope is dead and time is wasted.
- Letting go and chasing your dreams is the best revenge.
- Life is a gift. It is short, hard, beautiful, and love makes it all worth it.
- There’s always something to be grateful for.
- Build a future that excites you.
- Talk to God, he’s the only one that will never break a promise.
- When you feel so broken you can’t go on, ask God for help. You may not realize he answered, but in time when you look back you will see all that he’s done.
Relationship lessons learned may rock us to our core, but more than anything love fuels our life with beauty. Never stop loving we are all capable of more. Even when we are single there is still so much love to be found.
Not long ago, I was sitting in my car as I watched a very elderly couple both struggle to climb up 4 steps to enter a restaurant with heavy double wooden doors. I saw the man try to beat his wife to the top so that he could hold open the heavy door for her.
That was love and I’m grateful I was there to witness it. Do you agree? What would you add to the 31 lessons of love and loss?
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Subscription boxes make mail fun and a little mysterious. What a great gift for yourself and others. There are many subscription boxes for women, kids, men, dog lovers, and everyone in between. There really is one for everyone. Here's a list of over 25+ subscription box gift ideas for yourself or others, and to make Christmas shopping a little less stressful.
There's a subscription box for that
Great subscription box gifts most under $3o!
Of course, there are the tempting weekly meal subscriptions with organic produce, like Sun Basket. Then there's Piquant Post, a unique subscription that inspires one to cook with flavors from around the world. Every month receive new spices and recipes on how to use them. A great idea to spice up your normal routine. I know I could liven up my go to garlic, pepper, and salt routine.
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For the Drink Lovers
Angel's Cup is a great gift for coffee lovers. A great customizable coffee subscription. Just choose if you want grounds or whole beans, and your preferred roast. Then be treated with flavors from around the world.
Tea lovers will appreciate getting to try out 3 new teas every month along with a tea accessory. This one is under $20 a month.
For the fashion savvy or in my case fashion lazy. I don't like tiny dressing rooms, kids wanting to roll around on dirty floors and I end up sweating wanting to run out with my garment all twisted. I love the idea of effortless clothes shopping, just mail it to me.
For the women, there's Le Tote. It's kind of like Netflix for clothing. You keep it for as long as you want and send it back when you want something different. Looking for subscription boxes for the men, check out Trendy Butler, look good with the pain of shopping.
More subscription boxes for women, if your jewelry taste is more minimalist and dainty, then you'll love Penny & Grace's style. For $20 a month, you get to KEEP 3 pieces of jewelry and no shipping fees, got to love that.
Sock Fancy, another love of mine, socks. A friend of mine noticed I wore funky socks. So as a gift she purchased these fun little socks and ever since they have been my lucky pair. If quirky socks are your thing, check out or gift Sock Fancy, for the sock dork in your life.
You can even have new draws delivered right to your door, Eby will deliver new undies to your door every month. Just select your style and color preference.
Just for Women
SinglesSwag, a single woman's subscription box, seriously there is a box for everything. Their box includes organic beauty, best-selling books, snacks, fashion accessories.
Subscription boxes for women monthly, Kali a monthly box to keep you well supplied for your monthly. Organic tampons mailed straight to your door every month, not a bad idea.
Ellebox claims to make your period magical (laughing a bit to myself), still cool though. Organic tampons and/or pads along with chocolates, teas, or other treats. Love that these companies are organic, the stuff inside tampons and pads is crazy toxic, more on that here.
Merkaela has a natural beauty wellness box, full of natural products.
Handcrafted Globe Trotter
Globein, is kind of like receiving an Etsy gift every month. They are affordable too, with a $10 or $33 monthly subscription. Get handmade beautiful products from around the world. They are apart of Ebates too.
Tip: Ebates I've known about them, but never signed up till recently. Kind of a no brainer, if you shop online why not get cash back?
Eccocentric Mom curates monthly boxes chocked full of organic, natural, and or hand crafted products for natural mom and baby care. Great for the naturalist mama. Four box categories available: pregnancy, mom & baby, mom & toddler, or woman. An awesome mama gift.
A fun subscription box for new moms, Healthiest is a fun box of natural care products for soon to be and new moms. What a fun way to count down through your pregnancy.
Subscription Boxes for Kids
Book Roo is a monthly kids book subscription. Nothing like story time and the books come wrapped like a present. Two new books every month, with two age groups to choose from 0-2 or 2-6.
Bramble Box for kiddos ages 3-7. They have flexible plans every month or every 3 to 6 months. No extra shipping fees either. Fun activity boxes every month for the kids. A company encouraging unplugged activities.
Creating Family Time
Box of Challenge this is a fun monthly box of brain teasers, puzzles, and challenges for 8-88yrs old, that creates fun quality time with family. An inspiration to keep family night thriving every month.
Subscription Boxes for Board Game Lovers
Awesome, well sounds awesome. Each box contains a board game, hands-on project (like a science lab), small game or activity, and extra family fun goodies. It's for the whole family with extras for the kids. The boxes are customized to your family's taste and you can choose between a family box or a big kid box. The Big Kid Box is for board game-loving adults.
Smart Art stay inspired with this box. Art is one of those things that melts time away as you lose yourself in your project. Past boxes included watercolors, calligraphy, pastels, etc. Try out a new medium every month and be inspired to work on your art, love this!!!
More Subscription Boxes for Craft Lovers
Ann Williams, for the craft loving DIYers this is a fun one. Stay inspired with supplies and a project every month. Choose your age group and have crafty fun delivered straight to your door. Boxes designed for 5 years old to adults.
Home Made Luxe for the adult crafters addicted to Pinterest. Pinterest inspired craft projects. Receive supplies and instructions to make your own home decor crafts that's Pinterest worthy. I am a Pinterest fanatic, so this is just awesome!
Subscription Boxes for Cat Lovers
KitNipBox for the cat lovers a monthly subscription box full of cat treats and toys.
Subscription Boxes for Dog Lovers
Pupjoy for the dog lovers. I know a floppy-eared 3-legged hound that would love this
Subscription Boxes for Geeks
Powered Geek box, I can't really say this is my thing, but for the comic love, this box is for you. Every month get t-shirts, action figures, comics, and such.
Book Case a monthly box of books curated just to your taste. Its affordable and can be paused, if you fall behind on your reading. If you are a book lover, this is pretty cool.
The Homesteading box, if you have a dreamy homesteader type, then this is just fun. Can I say it again? A box for everything. Boxes start at $25 month, they keep the contents a surprise. Part of the mysterious fun I suppose, but its handpicked items to sharpen your homesteading skills.
Nomadik an adventure gear monthly service to keep you well supplied and inspired to get in the great outdoors.
Are you inspired? I know several I want to join for myself and that would be perfect for others. With the holidays here take some of the stress out of shopping with subscription box gifts, most under $30. Which one sounds awesome to you?
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I have made cauliflower rice before, and it works but I also find it’s a bit wet and has a strong cauliflower taste that competes with the rest of the dish. So the idea of cauli-rice didn’t thrill me. My new mission how to make cauliflower rice taste good. Determined to make chile verde over faux rice, I tweaked cauli-rice and made this small discovery.
Here’s my little discovery, how to make cauliflower rice taste like rice. To me this means reduce the cauliflower taste, so that I can taste the rest of the dish. I am actually quite excited about this because, it turned out amazing with no strong cauliflower taste. This is a new recipe that made it into my little red book of keepers, chile verde over this cauli rice recipe.
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How to make homemade cauliflower rice taste good
How to Make Cauliflower Rice Taste Good
This mission, how to make cauliflower rice taste like rice. This simple step really mellowed out the strong overpowering flavor of cauliflower, so that it doesn't compete with the rest of your dish.
- 1 large Head of Cauliflower
- 1 pinch Celtic Sea Salt
- 1 tb Raw butter or your oil of choice
- Preheat oven to 350F
- Cut the cauliflower into about ½ thickness and remove stem,
- Layout on bed baking sheet and roast, until lightly golden brown about 30-40mins
- Add oil to skillet, celtic sea salt, and toss. This helps remove any additional moisture and the oil (I prefer butter) adds flavor to the faux cauliflower rice. This does turn it into more of a faux cauliflower fried rice, but it
- In small batches shred cauliflower. You can use whatever food processor, blender, vitamixer you have. The trick is to work in small batches, so that large chunks don’t remain unprocessed at the top, and just quickly pulse it or you risk liquefying it. I used a stickblender with a food processor attachment.
- That’s all there is to it, add your favorite sauce or sides and enjoy!
Making faux rice with roasted cauliflower really improves the flavor. I believe roasting helps remove some of the strong tasting sulfurous moisture from the cauliflower, so that it did not compete with the rest of my dish, which this time was summer garden Chile Verde. What are your thoughts, on how to make cauliflower rice taste good?
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